I have lost patience with incremental “progress,” with “it used to be so much worse” (whether that It means racism, sexism, homophobia, younameit). I am tired of any social change that asks the same people to be understanding and patient about their own unmet needs, over and over and over — cuz political strategy requires attending to these other folks’ needs over here first, doncha see??
When keeping my expectations “reasonable” means always leaving the same groups at the back of the line — when it means accepting that there is a “back of the line” at all — I declare myself done. I am not interested in any progress not grounded in full acknowledgment of the radical humanity of us all.